Everybody has an audience
Everybody has an audience
It may be your mom trying to push you, or your best friend telling you that you do something well, or some random people on facebook, who you have not met before, who like what you do. It does not matter who it is, what matters is that everyone has an audience. I am not saying that you need someone to tell you that you are doing something better than others, for you to keep doing it. But it helps to keep you going and growing. If you suffer from the Dunning-Kruger effect (stupid people are confident, while the intelligent are doubtful), you need a good friend to cement your faith and confidence in yourself.
If you don’t know what you have, find an audience and be vulnerable. Ask a friend if you can borrow him/her for an hour or two and show him/her what you are doing. I suggest a friend because even though they may not like what you are doing, they will be gentle with their criticism. They also have the time to patiently listen to you. We hear about friends being great support systems when things are going wrong with us, but they can also be seen as confidence givers when you lack it. Once a good friend tells you that your book or any project is great you want to show it to more people. Then expand your audience and reap the confidence that you get from them to do bigger, better things. It becomes a chain reaction that would not have started if you had not casually discussed something with a friend. I have heard a lot of times that ‘Ideas that spread, win!’. This talk-to-a-friend system can be the background of those ideas. Ideas will spread if people like them or have faith in them. People will have faith in your ideas, if you have faith in them and sometimes you need a friend to show you how much you want that idea or project to happen.
We live in a world where there are many things to do and many different ways to do them. As if that is not enough, we have other things to take care of and a limited amount of time to do all this. So playing with ideas, seeing what works and what doesn’t, what you like and dislike is essential. Also, we are not capable of doing everything. We need the exchange of thoughts and skills with other people. So next time you have a half-baked idea that you are not sure about, don’t let it go. Rather find a friend and ask if you can pick his/her brains about it. You will be surprised at the number of times your ‘not-so-good idea’ gets transformed into something thats brilliant. Such collaborations help build good friendships too, which is a bonus.